Following the revelation that the average UK family will have at least 5 fights on Christmas day – with the first one at an impressively precise 10.13am – we asked Harold’s relationship guru and all round sage advice giver, Brenda Ferguson, how to avoid stress this festive season.
“Most arguments follow a predictable pattern” said Brenda. “Having studied these closely over the last few minutes, I have been able to come up with a foolproof way to diffuse nasty situations and restore harmony.”
Row 1: The “not tonight darling” sex fight
The pressures of planning a perfect Christmas can cause sex to go to the bottom of your ‘to-do’ list. But saying “no” when your hubby wants some hot lovin’ can make him feel rejected. Avoid causing these negative feelings by simply giving it up whenever he wants, and not complaining about it.
Row 2: The “Why am I doing everything?” fight
Look, I get it, I really do. There’s shopping and cleaning and wrapping and card writing to be done, all on top of your usual workload. It’s a busy time of year. But don’t start keeping score and reeling off lists of all the things you’ve done – your hubby works hard to bring home the bacon, and this time of year is all about gratitude.
If you start feeling like you’re doing too much just step outside for a moment and remember that you owe it to your family to work yourself half to death each Christmas.
Row 3: The “present giving” fight
You’ve spent ages sourcing the perfect present for your hubby. It’s a bespoke watch winding stand, made by pygmy artisans in Papua New Guinea. One of a kind and deliriously expensive. So you think it’s ok to get huffy when he nips out on Christmas Eve to “get a few things”? You’re too good for a bottle of Fantasy by Britney Spears and a poinsettia from M&S? Listen to me girlfriend, you’re lucky to have a hard working hubby to be with at Christmas. And he made the effort to go out and actually get you something? He’s one of the good ones, so accept your present with good grace and stop your whining!